Because of how I'm trying to flip my pill and sleep schedule all around, I'm cancelling my upcoming colonoscopy. I'm already dehydrated and malnutritioned from my tired tummy refusing food at the strange hours I offer it. I can't be fasting and going without water for hours or I'll end up in an ER and I tend to not enjoy doing that when I don't have to.
There are things I've been thinking about lately, and most of those things are why my husband is so great. The following are some of those reasons.
1. He Is Kind
My husband is kind to everyone he meets unless they give him a reason not to be. I started falling for him on our second date when he spoke to a cashier as if they were old friends. I watched in awe as my husband quickly turned this stone-cold, surly older gentleman into a warm, laughing, smiling individual. I couldn't believe it when my husband told me they'd never met and that he talks to everyone like that. But he does. His favorite go-to phrase is, "Don't worry about it!" And he uses it liberally to calm everyone from the guy who bumps into him in an elevator to the apologetic mother trying to contain a screaming, kicking child.
2. He Is Giving
Are we going out to dinner with you? Do you think you're going to be paying? No, you most certainly will not be. My husband feels a need to take care of his friends. That means everything from paying for dinners to opening up our home and lending our couch out for a day here and there. My husband does this with no expectation that there will be a return. He never brings up things he's done as reasons why people should "owe" him.
3. He Is Supportive
As a Chronic and Mental Illness Warrior, I get exhausted and burnt out very easily. It is natural for me to lose hope and faith in myself. My husband is my biggest supporter. Anytime I feel like I can't do this anymore, he is there to hold me and to let me cry and to tell me that he has never lost faith in me and never will. He says some of the most beautiful things that then replay over and over again in my brain, feeding the positive side of my brain. Without him, I don't know where I would be.
4. He Is Hilarious
Bad puns, dad jokes, memes, teasing, and more. We laugh all the time! He has told me more than once, "I live to see that smile." And he does. If I am hurt, anxious, crying, nearly passing out from pain, or just feeling "off," I can count on him to crack jokes and show me funny videos until I smile. Our dogs both have hilarious thoughts, feelings, and voices thanks to him. He will pick up our puppy and hide behind the little guy's head and chase me around the house as "Jeph," making me laugh so hard I can hardly stand up. It is such a wonderful quality.
5. He Is Safe
Need someone to walk through a dark alley with? Did your car break down and you need to call someone to help? Is it late and you need a Designated Driver? Is someone upsetting you and you need a stranger to step in and give you an out? Are you going to a party where you know no one and need someone safe to hang out with? My husband is your person. He is the straight guy that most women hope exists. He is safe. Before he met me, when he talked to a girl and she wasn't interested, he walked away and didn't hold it against her. He had many girls that were friends and there was no sexual tension between them because they'd been clear that they want to be friends with him and he'd been okay with that and protected them from creepy people at bars.
My husband is my actual favorite person. I hope you find your version of my husband and can live happily with that person for the rest of your life. I certainly intend to have years of happiness with this lovely man who inspires me to do better and be better every day.
